Contrary To Popular belief Chivalry is not dead. There are still gentlemen in this world. How do you translate this into success on a date? There are a few basic rules that any man should follow. Undoubtedly women do expect to be treated equally, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have to treat them with respect. The same rules that applied 20 years ago still apply today, and besides, doesn’t everyone want to be treated with respect? If you apply these principles on a date you should have nothing to worry about. Here’s a look at five key things you can do on a date to show that you’re a gentleman.
#1 Do not over use the term equality – It’s true women want to be considered equal, but this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to impress them by being a gentleman. If you’re out for a few drinks it’s okay to pay for them, if you go for dinner It’s OK to pay for that as well. If a woman is adamant, by all means let her share the bill – being a gentleman also means not creating a scene.
#2 Always be on time for a date – There’s nothing like showing up ten minutes late for ruining any chance of a second date. No matter how good your reason for being late, it’s bound to set the tone. If you know you’re going to be late and it’s unavoidable, make sure you call your date and explain the situation – don’t just leave her standing in a doorway feeling uncomfortable. By the time you do eventually show up she’ll already have formed an opinion of you and it won’t be a positive one.
#3 Don’t be afraid to share a compliment – When we talk about compliments, we’re talking about genuine compliments. Don’t make vulgar statements that you think are funny disguised as compliments – a date is not a locker room, save those types of comments for there, or better yet don’t use them at all. Compliment your date on her beautiful outfit, or perhaps her hairstyle, but make sure the compliment is genuine. If you don’t mean what you’re saying it’s best not to say it, insincerity has a way of showing through.
#4 Open doors and pull out the chair – Opening the door for your date should be a no brainer – this is just plain good manners. Don’t mistake opening a door for your date as somehow suggesting that they aren’t equal – this is utter nonsense. The same is true for pulling out the chair for your date at a restaurant – this is something you absolutely should do. Chances are you’re date will be impressed that there are actually still a few gentlemen left in the world.
#5 Eat like a gentleman – Believe it or not, how you eat says a lot about you. If you eat in a controlled manner, taking time to chew your food rather than engulf it, you’ll give your date a much better impression than if you eat like a caveman. Don’t order everything on the menu either – if anything can put someone off, an insatiable appetite is bound to do it.
The Final Word
Being a gentleman when dating as rich men is not as hard as you might think. It involves following some common sense principles that are as relevant today as they were 30 years ago. Women are still impressed by chivalry. So don’t be afraid to open doors and compliment your date – it just might land you a second one.